I grew up in Southern California in the San Fernando Valley in the ’70s. I was the youngest of three girls. I guess you could say that we were a “normal” family, but I recall never really feeling connected to anybody, aside from my mom, but most importantly I didn’t feel connected to myself. I didn’t know it at the time but subconsciously I was searching for my purpose at a very young age. In my early years is was attached to many labels…positive and negative.
I started playing tennis at about 8 or 9 years old and within a few years was ranked 12th in the nation, My parents would tell me how talented and beautiful I was. People would use all those adjectives to describe me….”cute” “foxy” “gorgeous” is the perfect package right? At the other end, I was told I had a learning disability and was a “bad” listener.
All these labels and beliefs pounded into my head, I was just a kid trying to seek acceptance from my parents (especially my dad). When I was 11 my Mom took me to see the movie “Billy Jack” and that is what changed everything for me. I knew then that my purpose was to help people. I was sure about this.
As a teenage girl, I got sidetracked…. I started experimenting with boys, drugs, testing authority, not going to school all that…I was so off course, I got kicked out of the LA Unified School District at 15! and had to go to a private school in Malibu. During this period I was also physically and mentally abused and was not supported by my family at all. I barely graduated from high school only after I had bribed my math and science teachers. I was screaming for help to get back on my purpose but had no clue how to follow my heart or let anyone in.
I got another label….” a disappointment”. My next few years were spent honoring my parent’s wishes, returning to a “normal” life. It now 1988 and I’m in my early twenties, I finally make the decision to help people…I’ll work with kids I declared!, troubled teens, abused kids, gang kids, My mom told me that I could never be good at doing that (she told me that about tennis too) and that because I was physically beautiful that I should just marry a rich guy. That pushed me even harder. The next day I volunteered at Pride House in Van Nuys and within a year I was the head counselor and caseload manager. For the next 10 years, I counseled teens and worked with the court system to provide a healthy situation for them to grow. During all this, I got married….3 times and finally had a child (with the 3rd). My daughter was my world so I stepped away from counseling to raise her.
In 2003 I felt it was time to resume my destiny of service, I enrolled at the University of Santa Monica and studied Spiritual Psychology. It was a graduate program…and way over my head but I was not to be denied and pushed through the 2 years (and many challenges) and got my certification.
I started a group in Santa Clarita CA called “the mom’s mixer” which became very successful. I had a weekly radio show and a column in the local magazine. I began taking on clients and created a flourishing business.
Life hit me again… I went through a divorce and my daughter was feeling the effects and doing terrible in school I stopped everything to focus on helping her through all this and just being a mom. I’m happy to say that was the best decision of my life.
I have since restarted my business and I’m working with moms and kids that have shared similar experiences. The challenges I have faced have made me a better, well-rounded coach. I really feel that we are all open and willing and that given a clear path, with guidance, we can all be limitless!
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